tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21919276.post114254019806707575..comments2023-10-17T05:21:29.845-07:00Comments on Eli's Coming: "The only kind of work that brings enjoyment...Elihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16435069005018966208noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21919276.post-38668431446789635572007-02-12T09:06:00.000-08:002007-02-12T09:06:00.000-08:00to above annonymous- have you even read this blog...to above annonymous- have you even read this blog? sure sounds like you haven't.<BR/><BR/>transition has NOTHING to do with a desire for social position. it is essentially bringing the body in accordance with one's identity and mental self-image. (Eli can correct me if this sounds inaccurate). please do some research and check your assumptions before you project your pseudo-feminist bullshitAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21919276.post-90030214128542216132007-02-10T21:04:00.000-08:002007-02-10T21:04:00.000-08:00"Because, as I explained it to him, I was never at..."Because, as I explained it to him, I was never at all interested in being a guy's girlfriend. But I am definitely more open to the prospect of being a guy's boyfriend."<BR/><BR/>Because as a man, you can be his peer and equal. As a woman, you were his inferior and unequal. <BR/><BR/>That's the whole point of transitioning--not to continue to be an <I>inferior</I> woman, right? You have Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21919276.post-38017421590446945402007-02-07T14:36:00.000-08:002007-02-07T14:36:00.000-08:00I am enjoying these responses as much as the origi...I am enjoying these responses as much as the original post... esp. your touching on heterophobia; it's something I noticed in myself a while ago but was never quite able to articulate.<br /><br />I meant to convey something about gender not being optional; As part of a gendered society, we <em>do</em> operate in gendered ways. Whether or not they're traditional gendered ways, whether or not we "bechttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06830350609788417819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21919276.post-8838816856134985892007-02-06T13:48:00.000-08:002007-02-06T13:48:00.000-08:00Okay, so anon #2-
Thanks for your provocative qu...Okay, so anon #2-<br /> Thanks for your provocative questions! I appreciate being called on my shit, and, well, you're right, I think I do have some anti-hetero stuff going on here that I need to examine more closely. I'm not sure that it's entirely unfounded, but it might be less than fair. It might also be, though, that I'm not being particularly clear with my terminology.<br /><br /> I might Elihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16435069005018966208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21919276.post-52710274383646444892007-02-06T13:27:00.000-08:002007-02-06T13:27:00.000-08:00Such interesting comments! Hurrah!
Trent, thanks ...Such interesting comments! Hurrah!<br /><br />Trent, thanks for your comments. I have to say that for myself, the architecture of my sex life has changed pretty intensely post-hormones + surgery. Some of it due to purely physical changes (different body landscape = new and exciting possibilities) and some due to mental restructuring...I'm happier and more grounded in my own self, etc. so I just Elihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16435069005018966208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21919276.post-43210320232311899512007-02-05T07:04:00.000-08:002007-02-05T07:04:00.000-08:00this is to bec, from the same "hopeless romantic" ...this is to bec, from the same "hopeless romantic" annonymous.<br /><br />first, you skipped over part of my quote in your response. I said, "so long as you have no problem with the dynamic or your partner's identity". in your case, it sounds as if a relationship dynamic that is too "straight" would turn you off, so it would matter.<br /><br />to me, there is much more to a person than their Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21919276.post-15154577560702288332007-02-05T00:24:00.000-08:002007-02-05T00:24:00.000-08:00oops; ourselves/we/us/our should be more like myse...oops; ourselves/we/us/our should be more like myself/I/me/mine...bechttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06830350609788417819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21919276.post-38583688512383975782007-02-04T19:18:00.000-08:002007-02-04T19:18:00.000-08:00I am one of those hopeless romantics that thinks, ...<i>I am one of those hopeless romantics that thinks, if you've got no problem with the dynamic or your partner's identity, and she or he feels the same, then why does it matter? who cares whether the relationship itself is gay, straight, or whatever?</i><br /><br />I've found it really really difficult to have a relationship without identity. As a woman who is attracted to both men and women, butbechttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06830350609788417819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21919276.post-33392613213891085682007-02-04T17:20:00.000-08:002007-02-04T17:20:00.000-08:00unlike the last annonymous, I respect your identit...unlike the last annonymous, I respect your identity and your choices. I think you've got a lot of interesting thoughts and questions here.<br /><br />however, I do have to ask. is there something wrong with being straight? I understand that you may not be straight, and that's okay. but I have sensed some heterophobia around some queer-community transmen before, and I've got to ask. if you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21919276.post-22182642811556741442007-02-04T13:21:00.000-08:002007-02-04T13:21:00.000-08:00sorry, but i don't quite get it. you're a guy, an...sorry, but i don't quite get it. you're a guy, and you mostly date girls. what's not straight about that? <br />and furthermore, why isn't it irksome to have a dyke girlfriend when you're a guy? i mean, clearly she likes guys if she's with you, right? and if you're a guy who dates lesbians, wouldn't that feel like it was undermining your male identity?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21919276.post-90437911650108371222007-02-03T18:02:00.000-08:002007-02-03T18:02:00.000-08:00i try to talk to folks about this all the time but...i try to talk to folks about this all the time but it alwayz seems to freak them out loads.<br /><br />a few comments:<br /><br />on the sex-as-act front, i'll be the first to admit guys never quite know what to do with me. even (i should say especially) guys who know i'm trans. one of two things usually happens: (1) the guy just flicks off the 'trans button' and goes about his business in Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com